What it’s Like When Your Family isn’t Close

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The time my older brother told me to stop singing

Ever since I was a little girl I’ve loved to sing, although most people wouldn’t know it because I hardly ever sing in front of people. That’s because a long time ago my confidence was shattered by my older brother who, at the time, I considered my best friend and who I looked up to.

The time when my dad and brother laughed at my career dreams

The year was 2006. I was 16 years old and a junior in high school, which meant I was starting to get serious about what to do after graduation. I kind of thought about college, but only because my dad was really pushing it, but what I really wanted to do was direct music videos.

That time my mom kept dating a guy who hit on me

After that encounter with my dad, our relationship deteriorated, so I decided to move from Colorado to Utah to live with my mom.

That time when I graduated college and my dad didn’t care

Let’s fast forward to October 2017. I was 27 years old, and I just earned my Bachelor’s Degree in Graphic Design. I was excited that I finally completed something, but I was even more pumped to share the momentous occasion with my dad, the only parent I now communicate with.

It helped me realize that my family is never going to be the loving, accepting, supportive group of people I want them to be so I should stop trying so hard to get their validation.

Up to that point, I had spent so much of my life seeking approval and support from my family only to be let down time and time again. Now, it’s time to do things for me, and ever since that moment, I have been working to make that my priority.

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